Dear Adelaide, Asher and future unnamed child,
This is written for you to read when you’re 16 – or older:
Have you ever thought your parents were “old?” “Predictable?” “Safe?”
Gasp … “mean?”
Well this is to inform you that your parents were indeed once young, weird, and spontaneous beings.
The same people that have enforced bedtime night after night use to stay up all night and prophesize while starring longingly at the stars – wondering what else was out there – wondering about our future.
Your parents use to dye their hair weird colors, like red, purple, and gray – because we couldn’t believe our freedom as adults – that we could.
We once bought cheese in a can and crackers at the grocery store and called it dinner. We ate sugary cereal out of plastic cups because we didn’t want to do the dishes.
At parties and events, your parents were often the weirdest people in the room – often making inside jokes that only we could possibly get – and laughing ridiculously at them.
Alissa and I felt young and wild and sought out adventure. We had no idea what our future held – and loved every minute of it. When we moved to San Antonio (where you were all born), we did so in 6 months, without knowing a soul in the city. We bought a house without jobs, packed our car in the middle of the night, drove in the dark and hoped for the best. (Then we worked our asses off to make it work).
We were dreamers that would fascinate about starting a rock band in the vein of Matt & Kim and The White Stripes (see Wikipedia – if Wikipedia is no longer a thing, ask Mom and Dad).
We write this to tell you that we have parented you for 16 years, we have taught you and watched over you lovingly. We have worried and agonized, making sure we were always making the right decision for you. We have happily dedicated our lives to you. We want you to now make your own choices in the world – using what we have taught you. We want you to know that it’s ok to be young, to be wild, to be different, to be yourselves. It’s OK to not have it all figured out, it’s OK to make mistakes –but your choices DO MATTER, and we trust you to make those choices.